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How do I choose who should be in my bridal party?
The wedding planning has begun and the big question circling around you and your starts to become a reality. Who will be in my wedding party? How do you choose without leaving anyone out or hurting anyone’s feelings? Unfortunately nothing is perfect and part of the responsibility of planning your wedding is deciding who you want surrounding you on your big day. The most important thing to keep in mind is these members will be permanently in your wedding day photos, videos, social media, and anything else that can be shared into today’s world of the internet. Here are a couple of pointers to help start the process of choosing those lucky members that will have the special honor of celebrating your wedding day with you.
Think before you ask. Once you’ve asked someone to be in your wedding party, you can’t go back. Take your time and pose this question to yourself: Do you imagine you’ll be just as close to this person in five years as you are now? If you’re on the fence about asking someone to be in your wedding party, consider how they’d fit in with the rest of your attendants. If you don’t think they’d mesh with your crew, leave them off the list.
Set honest expectations. What sort of a role do you want your wedding party to play? Is it important to you that they help to address wedding invites, dress shop with you and attend all of the prewedding parties? Or will it be enough for them to wear what you chose and show up the day of? If it’s the former, think twice about asking friends or family who live far away or have extremely hectic schedules. The worst thing you could do is set yourself up for disappointment.
Include your brothers and sisters. Not to sound like mom, but think about it: Even if you’re not particularly close to his sister or her brother, siblings are going to be around well past our 10-year anniversary, and chances are, you’ll become closer over the years.
Choose responsible honor
attendants. Choosing your best man and maid
of honor might not be an easy task. The best honor attendants are friends who
are responsible (since you’re going to rely on them for some big wedding
planning tasks and to hold on to your expensive rings) and friends who are good
at providing emotional support, because there just might be a few prewedding
meltdowns. (It also helps if they’re super-fun, since they’ll be planning the
bachelor and bachelorette parties!).
Don’t ask someone just because they asked you. Weddings are no time for quid pro quo. You don’t need to ask someone to be in your wedding because they asked you to be in their wedding. Don’t ask the college roommate you haven’t spoken to in five years just to return the favor.
How many members should be in my bridal party?
This is always the biggest and first questions every bride and groom ask themselves. There is always a lot of pressure and responsibly that comes along when considering the bridal party members. The first thing you need to do is consider the size of your wedding. You can have as many or few bridesmaids and groomsmen as you like. The average wedding party size is eight – four bridesmaids and four groomsmen, this is a great place to begin. For a smaller wedding with around 50 to 60 guests, have no more than four, but for a larger wedding of, say, 150, you could go up to 12 if you really wanted to. Just keep this in mind: More isn’t always merrier. The more bridesmaids or groomsmen you have, the more people to coordinate with, find a flattering tux or dress for, and work around schedules with. In the world of wedding planning today there is no traditional way to do things on your big day. Don’t’ be a afraid to have a male as your “man of honor” or female as "the best woman".
Guys can stand with the bridesmaids and women can stand with the groomsmen. It’s really up to you – what’s most important is that you include your favorite people, women and men. If your best friend isn’t always the most dependable person, it’s perfectly okay to have two best men or maids of honor. Pick your unpredictable BFF and another friend you can rely on for the big, important duties.
How to handle RSVP's
You have 8 weeks to go till the big day and now comes the most important part the RSVPS! We have all heard the horror stories of getting people to RSVP to your wedding and how painful it can be but here are some tips to help guide you through the wedding invitations madness!
1. Be Specific. Let your guests know exactly how to RSVP, email, mail, phone, text message whatever method you choose make sure it is clearly mentioned in the RSVP portion. Be sure you mention what your RSVP deadline is and it is placed in a visible area. If you are asking guests to RSVP on your website, include that text on your invitation: “Please RSVP on our website at myweddingsite.com by October 1, 2016.”
2. Give Options. Do you have some friends who like texts and others who prefer email? Thought so! Make it easy for your guests by giving them permission to RSVP in the manner that they prefer: online, email, text messages, or mail make it easy for your potential guest.
3. Stay Organized. As the RSVPs start to roll in, make sure they are captured in one place so that you know both who has and who has not RSVP’d, as well what the responses are. Start a guest list and RSVP spreadsheet. When you receive an RSVP, remember to add it to the spreadsheet right away so that nothing gets lost or forgotten.
4. Follow Up (Gently). Your guests are interesting, fun people—but this means they are busy too. Although you are thinking about your wedding day and night, they are not, and there is nothing wrong with that. Many of your guests will need a gentle reminder that the RSVP deadline is coming up. Email is a great way to reach out to them.
5. Plan Ahead. Don’t wait until three days before your catering numbers are due to start calling everyone in panic. Add some calendar invites to remind yourself when to send the first gentle reminder and when to start picking up the phone and dialing. Another sanity-saver is to build in some buffer for the unexpected yay or nay. Expect one or two guests to drop out at the last minute and one or two others to call at last minute and ask whether they can still come. If you are mentally and logistically prepared for this to happen, it will be less stressful when it does!
Some Extra Tips when mailing your invitations:
Make sure you gather everyone’s emails and phone numbers together early in your planning so you have them when you need to follow up on those final missing RSVPs.
If you are sending paper RSVP cards in your invitations, number each one lightly on the back in pencil and mark down what number card goes with what guest or household on your spreadsheet. You’d be amazed at the number of cards that are returned without a name on them, and this will make things oh-so-much easier to track.
3. If you’re using mail RSVP cards, make sure you include a pre-addressed and pre-stamped return envelope with adequate postage. Also, on the card, provide an alternative method to RSVP (like an email address or phone number). That will help the busy guest who discovers the RSVP card in her “to do” pile five days after the RSVP deadline!
4. If you are collecting RSVPs by mail, set the RSVP deadline two weeks before you actually need the responses to arrive. Most guests will feel good if their response is simply postmarked by the reply date.
Why newlyweds cut the cake
One of the most exciting parts of the wedding reception festivities is the Cake Cutting! Wedding cakes have become elaborate along with wedding receptions and we have lost the true meaning behind one of the most important traditions during the reception. The significance of cake cutting was a symbol for the bride losing her virginity, In its origin the cake cutting was only completed by the bride plunging the knife into the center of the cake was a symbol of her breaking through the ‘virginal white’ outer shell. The newlyweds would than cut and pass out the cake to all the guest sharing richness with friends and family so that blessing and happiness can be shared 10 fold.
As time has passed so has the meaning and tradition of cutting the cake. Today it now symbolizes the first task the couple will do together in their married life. After doing some research I have also seen it suggested that the cutting severed the couple’s links with the past and prepared them for their future together. That is why they are encouraged to either use a cake cutting set from their parents’ wedding or have gifted to them from family member. Check out some of our past couples sharing this special tradition on their wedding day.
72% of recently married brides say they regret not having hired a wedding planner.
People are unrealistic – when it comes to weddings. I say this because people tend to underestimate the amount of work and time that goes into planning a wedding. Since most people getting married are doing it for the first time, they really have no clue what they are getting into until about one month before the big day when they realize they’ve overlooked too many details. Unfortunately for most, this realization often happens pretty late in the planning process. Most couples have at some point thought one or more of the following reasons not to hire a wedding planner applies to them. Here’s why these reasons are often unrealistic:
1. I have a tight budget.
Wedding planners can actually help you save money. I know, seems counterintuitive right? Wedding planners are no longer only for those couples with unlimited budgets. They know more than anyone else how quickly the little things add up, so it’s not uncommon for them to provide a rate for their services that works within your specific budget. Not only do they have relationships with quality vendors to get you deals on services, they know where it’s reasonable to cut back in your budget and still have an amazing party. Real talk, if you are spending a few thousand dollars (sometimes up to $10,000) on a photographer and videographer to capture your special day, why not spend a fraction of that to make sure there’s a great wedding to capture.
2. My [insert family member type here] will help me plan my wedding.
The only almost guaranteed outcome from this arrangement is some form of time savings for you. If your chosen family member doesn’t actually have experience in planning and coordinating events, they will be experiencing the same pain points and stress along the planning process as you would. While these types of arrangements always start off with the best of intentions, there’s always the possibility of something going wrong…which could get a bit awkward. Also, since this person will likely be the point person on the day of your wedding, they won’t be actively participating in your wedding the way you would like them to – they’ll be too busy making sure everything is running smoothly.
3. I’m Type A and I like to do things myself.
I get that, so am I. This being said, people often underestimate the time it takes to plan a wedding. If you have a full-time job and general life commitments, planning a wedding in your “spare time” can be pretty difficult. Hiring a wedding planner also doesn’t mean that you are giving up control of your wedding— they work for you. They are professional consultants that help things run the way you want them to. Also, there are many things you can absolutely do yourself and most planners are willing to customize their planning package to accommodate this. At the end of the day, no matter how organized you are, you can’t be in two places at once.
Should you invite children to your wedding?
Whether or not to invite children to a wedding is always a questions that comes up during the planning process. You have people who think kids add a certain magic to the atmosphere, and then you have those who feel as though that “magic” is actually screaming and messiness. I would be lying if I said I have never seen what looked like a kid’s gone wild movie but I have also seen the joy, laughter, and lifetime memories that have been created. Here are some check points to consider before you create a no kids allowed zone for you wedding.
Decide Who’s Included
Having kids at your wedding does not mean you have to opens it up to everyone, it’s perfectly fine only to invite children who are part of your or your fiancé’s family. If you let yourself get caught up in the drama of “Why wasn’t my child invited?!” you’re going to find yourself in a big (and expensive) mess. Politely, and I can’t stress that part enough, explain to those guests who do say something you’re sorry you were unable to include everyone. Wedding are an expensive event and most will understand not wanting to expand your budget.
Make It Clear Who’s Invited
Parents tend to make assumptions about their kids making the list. They assume their kids are and way to often don’t ask. So you need to make it abundantly clear who is included. If you are inviting kids, adding the words “and family” to the invitation envelope will give them the go ahead to bring their kids. Otherwise address it to those invited.
Managing the Kids
Seat all the parents and their children together at one table or at tables close to each other. Do not stick someone with no kids a table with lots of kids, this is the quickest way to ruin a guest experience at your wedding.
Hire a chaperone! An unsupervised group of kids is the fastest way to go from elegant reception to a scene right out of The Planet of the Apes. Hiring someone to keep an eye on things will allow the parents to have a good time and have an extra pair of eyes to make sure your wedding stays enjoyable.
Keep Them Entertained
Since children have short attention spans, you may need to create diversions – a kid-friendly DVD, a few board games set up in a separate room. Get every boy and girl the exact same gift! You don’t want anyone to be fighting over that lone box of scented markers or offend any parents who did attend the wedding.
Check out these adorable photos of some past Flower girls who were part of a wedding we did.
Monica & Daniel Married!
This beautiful wedding began outdoors with a sunset ceremony. The bride decided to use white parasol’s instead of traditional bouquets for her bridesmaids. The couple chose very classic colors of Pinks, whites, yellows, and a pop of purple to create a traditional wedding look. With beautiful lanterns as pew markers SWC Consultants moved them after the ceremony to create a romantic candlelight setting for the reception. As we directed guests inside for cocktail hour the guest were in awe of the reception area full of purple uplights, white satin linens topped with gold china and beautiful floral arrangements of garden roses with the perfect mix of pink, purples, and whites. With a guest list of 300 the room was full of love, joy, and celebrations for the newlyweds all evening. During the wedding planning process couples see and want to add to much to fill in empty spaces but this classic themed wedding proves that sometimes "less is more". The beautiful wedding photos were provided by the talented Daniel Torres Photography.